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You owe reality nothing and the truth about your feelings everything. — Richard Hugo 

993 deviants said True - Please advise.
222 deviants said False - Please advise.

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Sasha-Spence Featured By Owner Apr 26, 2015  Student General Artist
We owe the truth of our feelings to reality in a sense so I disagree with this. I mean we feel because of reality, no matter how crappy the reality of a situation is. So we owe everything to the reality of our lives. The truth of our feelings is something that comes from our realities, there is nothing we can do other then close our eyes, and pretend that what we face is not reality. Pretending a problem doesn't exist never helped anyone, and it never will. Additionally if reality gives us something decent then, we owe it.
ComplexVariable Featured By Owner Feb 15, 2015  Hobbyist Writer
To me, these statements contradict one another. It is, ultimately, a metaphysical quandary. Experience and feelings are, ultimately, states of being. A story moves me, a performance makes me laugh, a concert fills me with wonder.

But, so what? Why does any of that even matter?

A state of being is just that: a state. Something that we perceive for but a moment, before it passes and is replaced by another.

And yet, I KNOW that these things are significant.

So, the question is this: how can something so utterly personal and incommunicable as pure feeling or experience have significance if it is so ephemeral and absolute?

The answer, of course, is: through reality.

I am of the belief that if a thing is insignificant or imperceptible, than ultimately, it is indistuinguishable from a total absence of anything at all.

A message explaining the cure to cancer is no better than useless if it is in a language that no one can understand. Experience of perception would fall into the same category, if it were not for the fact that feelings MOVE us--they affect us and the way that we act.

This is how they are significant; this is how we know that they are real. The experience of pure feeling--that infinitely intimate moment--is precious and essential because of the change that it produces within us, a change that can be felt and known by others.

Reality, in my eyes, is the medium through which truth becomes known. And, as a creative individual, I see it as ESSENTIAL that my expressions are known and understood by those around me. Otherwise, they would remain trapped within me, and would pass (along with myself) from the world, completely unknown, after the due progress of time.

It is because I owe my feelings everything that I must also owe reality (and, through that, my feelings) the courtesy of making those feelings known, so that they can be significant, and have the chance of making a difference somehow, someday.
darkwar38 Featured By Owner Edited Jan 5, 2015
Don't forget that drugs, alcoholic drinks and smoking are bad and change your feelings the most people use those things, there are also ways to train your emotions like thinking its Fake, so do people even live sometimes?
Kristalmayb Featured By Owner Jan 2, 2015  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
Reality is only perception. Both of these things are the same. Whether your motivation comes from outside of you, or from within, it is only yourself you face in the end.
eclipse2014 Featured By Owner Oct 25, 2014  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
While I want to say I agree with what Hugo is saying, reality is reality. No amount of emotion or wishing can change that. And our emotions do not define us, as most of the time they are fleeting experiences that come come and go. We may want something one moment and want something else the next. Emotions behave in the same way.

However, reality does not change. It does not move or bend with our emotions. Our pasts, which reality crafted, are the things that define us as people. And while emotions do play a part in defining our personalities, our personal experiences both past and present are what molded us into the people we are today. And while I'm sure everyone has their own fantasies and dreams, those things are fleeting, temporary. It is the relationships and the memories we make in the time we have that will last through our lives. And as we grow, our feelings change too.

Now I'm not trying to say that emotions are overrated. Emotions play a huge part in some of the decisions we make in day to day life. Sure, not every situation needs an emotion to dictate our response; that's what common sense and logic are for. But when someone does something mean or harmful to you, we get angry as a response because the situation invokes that emotion.

But the bottom line is that we kind of owe reality something for giving us the experiences we've had. That's just my opinion, and honestly, I'm pretty neutral on this because both sides can be argued for. I also agree with both sides of the issue, so I can't really choose. It's up to us on how we think about this.
BlackShadow6202 Featured By Owner Oct 24, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
From my own personal experience, it's not so much reality that shapes me as much as my emotions. I'm not really sure how to explain this, other than maybe reality has just let me down one too many times. While SOMETIMES my emotions aren't always reliable (I'm female...there's times when I can't trust my emotions. In fact, it tends to happen once a month...), I usually find myself looking at how I REACT more than the SITUATION. I guess this is also reflected in my "good" characters are based off of my emotional responses, while my "evil" characters tend to be based off of my I HAVE made one or two characters when I was pissed, and they HAVE stuck around...but they're barely used, and tend to be flat.

I dunno. This is just me. Someone else probably has a different perspective, and that's fine. I think this one might actually depend on the individual, not society, in order to ring true...
Fourthebetter Featured By Owner May 21, 2014  Hobbyist Writer
To each you must owe something, they affect you.  To one you may owe more, for me, it would be reality.  I have overcome depression by being very emotionally blunt with myself.  The debts we owe are individual and entirely reliant on our pasts and what we see shortly forward.
praporsiza Featured By Owner May 21, 2014
i cannot draw a thind unless i FEEL it, i dunno how to put it the other way. I guess most of the people here would understand
crazcat Featured By Owner Apr 3, 2014  Professional Digital Artist
I'd LIKE to say that is true- but feelings are so fleeting and completely affected by the realities around us. As much as I may feel like I want something to be a certain way... or how a situation makes me FEEL- that isn't really what matters in the end- reality always wins out, whether positively or negatively. You really can't live in a dreamworld of emotion (unless you've got some sort of fantastic chemical imbalance).
Animedemon001 Featured By Owner Mar 20, 2014  Hobbyist Writer
I owe my entire self to reality. Our life force is a debt, we can only repay it by improving life for others.
startist22 Featured By Owner Jan 1, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
Just for me, it's false. Alright, so yes, you do need to focus on yourself, you have to change yourself to change your perspective. But seriously? 
   The REAL world matters too. You can't be living in your own dream for fifty years. You need to focus on life, and get good things out of it. Get a job. A good job. Live in the real world, but don't overdo it.
ExpeditionFantasy Featured By Owner Mar 6, 2014  Student Traditional Artist
Exactly! haha
LostFallenHero Featured By Owner Dec 26, 2013  Student General Artist
I say false, but that's my opinion.

When we are born, what are our feelings? Fear or Joy?
Reality is what creates us, shapes us, molds us into what we are and our feelings are formed later on at an older age. Are our feelings on religion, art, politics and life formed at an early age? Yes? No? Maybe? I owe more to reality than I do for my feelings, reality has taught me many things. When someone says "Congratulations" you smile because you feel joy whereas any negative comment would make you feel down (depending on the situation).
Reality shapes you for the future, but it's really up to you.

But again, that's just my opinion. I have various perspectives, opinions and theories to add, but I think I might go overboard and write too much, so I'll just leave it at that. :meow:
ViniVidi Featured By Owner Oct 31, 2013
True in a way because as someone once said the mind is a place of its own and can make a heaven of hell or a hell of heaven.
Having said that,I believe the opinion itself will vary from person to person as it is subjective to our personal view or understanding of reality in itself
LongCoolWomanInBlack Featured By Owner Oct 26, 2013   Artist
Sorry, but I see no boundary between the one and the other. How you feel about what you perceive is a learned response you are as much a stone in front of you as you are anything else. The concept of personal reality is present up to a point but only a small point otherwise we jump into the mysterious différance a la recondite interpretations of Derrida in the 80’s and beyond. Personal reality is ???? Psychosis? A ketamine experience. Sure there is bias and aggregate of personal experiences which plays with signifier and signified. But, it is pretty clear we can communicate so we aren’t wired that differently. Having an aphasia would be different.
Sylphermizt Featured By Owner Sep 29, 2013  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
Reality's the one that make us all become wiser and of course it's the thing that builds our feelings so indeed I treasure and owe reality a ton.
The-Hungry-Traveler Featured By Owner Oct 20, 2013  Professional General Artist
good comment! Let's not forget we create our own reality. It's a collective offspring we have to constantly nurture. Saying we owe it nothing is like creating a child and saying abandonment is an option. 
Sylphermizt Featured By Owner Oct 25, 2013  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
Yepyep Thanks :)
tisnman Featured By Owner Aug 25, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
We can only control our own perspective on reality(how we feel about it). i vote de true
Lemonycoffin Featured By Owner Aug 24, 2013  Student Writer
It's true- reality is influenced by your emotions-unless your objective or realist- or a logical thinker then reality is driven by what you think rather then feel.
MyDorkyHeart Featured By Owner Aug 17, 2013  Student General Artist
False.  Everyone hides their true feelings from reality.  We owe nothing to our feelings because they know their own truth.
M-Jae Featured By Owner Aug 7, 2013  Student Interface Designer
The truth about your feelings is still a part of your own reality.
SkyRifter Featured By Owner Jul 9, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
starbg92 Featured By Owner Jun 28, 2013  Student Filmographer
Reality can go quiet contrary to what you're actually feeling inside, or what you actually 'want' it to be.
Laernu Featured By Owner Jun 24, 2013
False, reality comes through the senses. Hence the phrase is negating itself.
spectrographic Featured By Owner Jun 22, 2013
Is this quote about the "Truth" about feelings, not just any old feelings. I believe that you owe that deeper intuition about a deeper reality much more than you owe to perceptions. Most of what we refer to as our feelings are just superficial reactions though and are problematic. They are the mechanism of error, the opposite of Truth.
ConfusedDM Featured By Owner Jun 2, 2013
While our feelings may be important, they really only affect ourselves. I think we owe it to our fellow human beings to deal with the world as it exists. Of course, in expressing this, I express my true feelings, which may prove the alternative right after all.
Pokey-Bunny Featured By Owner Jun 1, 2013  Hobbyist Writer
I think there are times when your responsibilities to the real world should out weigh how you feel. For example, if you have a spouse and children, your responsibility to stay with them and take care of them should out weigh your feelings of lust, or even love for another person that would lead you to abandon your family.

It's easy to say, be true to yourself and follow your heart, that's what everyone wants, right? But that doesn't mean it's right. It means it's easy. It's easy to walk away from responsibility, it's easy to leave people hanging and in need. But it is also wrong, in my opinion.
Naga-Hunter Featured By Owner Jun 1, 2013
The very saying that you own reality nothing and your feelings everything is wrong. They go hand in hand and one of them can't be written of. Our reality colour our feelings. Our feelings affect our reality. They are a whole. To write of one of them is too simpleminded in my humble opinion.
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OpaquelyMysterious Featured By Owner Apr 30, 2013  Hobbyist Artist
It is said that emotional awareness is the highest form of intelligence. If you become aware of your emotions, everything else in reality will fall into place since feelings and emotions are the incipients of subsistence.

However, truth isn't everything. The actual definition from the Merriam-Webster dictionary of the word reality is this: "1) the quality or state of being real 2) (a) a real event, entity, or state of affairs (b) something that is neither derivative nor dependent but exists necessarily." Thus stated, facts pertain to everything concerning reality as well as truth.

Thus having given the facts on both sides of this aspect concerning reality and feeling, I must say that I agree with Hugo.
bluejools Featured By Owner Apr 22, 2013
Reality you can not control. Feelings impact your perspective and ability to see options and choices. IF you are honest with yourself about your feelings and where they originate (i.e. past experiences, bad or good) you can effect your perspective and find paths and choices that otherwise you would have been blinded to.

ok, well, that's my story and I am sticking to it.
Noteable Featured By Owner Apr 21, 2013
You could say that ones feelings is the reality. Don't we owe ourselves truth.
PrimeHunter Featured By Owner Apr 21, 2013  Professional General Artist
I chose true, because as long as you believe in your inner power, reality will respond to what you believe.
Astrikos Featured By Owner Apr 19, 2013   General Artist
Very complex question...
I feel like reality is all in our feelings. It depends what kind of reality. Dreams are reality, but they aren't.
They're everything, and nothing at the same time.
It's paradoxical.
Life is a paradox.
Emotion shapes the reality we live in, while the reality we live in also shapes emotions. :lol:
Phinnyphineas Featured By Owner Apr 19, 2013  Hobbyist Writer
without feelings the truth is just someting,is just a word.
If you don't have feelings you just exist.your live has no don't deserve to be called a human.Feelings are waht are we.The felling are shaping our lives.
the reality,the truth are nothing without feelings.As i say, you just exist.
the reality is just the base thing,the courage,the hope and the rest of a human feeling represent us.
I think that this reality is made by more realites, bad or god realites. I think that for every of our reactions from every day are made by differents universes,the universes are too small ,so they are forming thogheter our universe.I think that are more stable universes that we can imagine.I think that is a perfect universe for ours deppest whises and dreamings.But don't forghet that you may live the dream of another you.But we are in this imperfect universe,this is the truth,but with our feelings we can do the impossible.I really belive that we can control our fate,the reality ,the truth can't stop us.That is what i think
Tenebrian Featured By Owner Apr 18, 2013  Professional Artisan Crafter
One of the simplest things I can think of in relation to this is, 'you can't change the events beyond your control, but you can change yourself.' In that context reality shouldn't overwhelm our focus because our real focus should be on ourselves.

But, what I thought first was, 'the truth about emotions is that even if we feel they are important, they are our truths. and in the end they are nothing.' Our truths define the reality to what we make of it; our reality is the only reality to us and is defined by our feelings and thoughts. yet, it's transitory, impermanent and subjective.

Hard words to dissect.
TheGalleryOfEve Featured By Owner Apr 18, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
This reminds me of a poll I made yesterday on my page "Define happiness" ... didn't get too many "serious" responses yet (it's too soon), but some people said "Happiness is being content". I actually couldn't agree more with that definition! How many times do we see someone we think is in much worse conditions than us, and they smile wider! They're joyful! They're happy!!! And it's because they're simply more "appreciative" :shrug: ... They're "content" ... they have a mindset that allows them to open up their hearts to feel grateful for what they DO have! :love: ... Those are the ones who see the "half-full" glass!!! :iconlainloveplz:

So, it all comes to the same thing, in my opinion ... our state of mind, our feelings deciding "HOW" we're going to choose to BE, not our reality, or destiny or the world around us ... It is OUR choice!!! :love:
EsselPratt Featured By Owner Apr 18, 2013  Professional Writer
I think reality is different to each person. If that is the case, then is reality even real? How can something that is intangible, be real...unless we make it real. Even then, how can we owe it anything, when it is just a figment of our own being? As a writer, I create many "realities", some believable and some not so believable. Nevertheless, they are the reality of the story that I developed. Nothing is owed to the idea, or visualization, of the reality that I create.

As for your feelings about everything, they deserve no less than the truth. If you hide the truth, you are harming yourself. Instead of living the grand lie, caress the differences that you hold tightly within and use their powers to create your new reality in which you can prosper.
heronwolf Featured By Owner Apr 17, 2013  Hobbyist Writer
What is reality? What are we feeling? Answered true, not sure why ;p
TuesdayNightCompany Featured By Owner Apr 17, 2013
I answered true, although that's an incredibly broad statement and I could have just as easily said false. There is far too much to be read into that statement for anyone to be thinking the same thing when they answer...
HauntedShadowsLegacy Featured By Owner Apr 17, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
True- Reality is nothing without true feelings except an existence. Feelings are what change reality, shaping and morphing it into something new. This is because feelings induce decisions.

'Mac or PC' can cause a wide array of feelings. Example: I feel PCs are more reliable than Macs because of how in depth you can customize PCs; you can go as far as overclocking whatever parts you want, adding an advanced coolant system, and putting in three or four high capacity hard drives. Because of my feelings about PCs versus Macs, reality must do as I have chosen because of my opinion. Thus, I have a PC because of my own choice.

There are things that can't be changed, but that's to be expected. Reality is like building a foundation- the stronger of a foundation (physical/quantum laws) you have, the more stable a reality is making choices and existence possible. Those realities too unstable to become full realities help bind another reality into a sure foundation. That, my friend, is my theory behind reality and existence.
techgnotic Featured By Owner Apr 17, 2013
Thank you for this comment!
HauntedShadowsLegacy Featured By Owner Apr 18, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
No prob, pal. ^^
autumnlit Featured By Owner Apr 17, 2013
I think this quote is brilliant. The reality of most situations is that you are going to be put down, you are going to be told to do the wrong thing, you are going to be subject to life, and the reality is that you are going to have to CHOOSE exactly what you do about all that. The truth is admitting how you really feel about that in order to make your decisions. The truth, not denials. Simply put, I love this quote.
RhynWilliams Featured By Owner Apr 17, 2013   Traditional Artist
life is everything and also nothing, we exist and do not, we are a memory and also we are not, we are like a webpage that stretches when it doesn't load properly or a 2d image on an eraser that is the same all the way through, we live forever and also we do not, yin yang, black and white, there's no answer to the meaning of life but I can only speculate that god is infinite, a bubble within a bubble within another bubble and continue forever in that same cycle, you yourself is god, the middle of the circumpoint, I may be your imagination or the other way around, heres a perfect video you should watch which relates to what im trying to say :lol: [link]
techgnotic Featured By Owner Apr 17, 2013
Classic song.

Here is another video on the subject. [link]
RhynWilliams Featured By Owner Apr 17, 2013   Traditional Artist
yup he has it right, everyone thinks about why they exust at some point in their life its only a small fraction that continue to think about the subject on a daily basis
footinadream Featured By Owner Apr 17, 2013  Student General Artist
to me, this sounds a lot like the "with our thoughts we make out world" thing, the idea that reality is what you perceive it to be. I think there is a lot of truth and freedom in this; you can't change what something is, but you can change how you feel about it and how you allow yourself to react to it.
techgnotic Featured By Owner Apr 17, 2013
Exactly. A very old concept within a simple question. If you believe something to be true, does that make it true?
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