To each you must owe something, they affect you. To one you may owe more, for me, it would be reality. I have overcome depression by being very emotionally blunt with myself. The debts we owe are individual and entirely reliant on our pasts and what we see shortly forward.
I'd LIKE to say that is true- but feelings are so fleeting and completely affected by the realities around us. As much as I may feel like I want something to be a certain way... or how a situation makes me FEEL- that isn't really what matters in the end- reality always wins out, whether positively or negatively. You really can't live in a dreamworld of emotion (unless you've got some sort of fantastic chemical imbalance).
Just for me, it's false. Alright, so yes, you do need to focus on yourself, you have to change yourself to change your perspective. But seriously?
The REAL world matters too. You can't be living in your own dream for fifty years. You need to focus on life, and get good things out of it. Get a job. A good job. Live in the real world, but don't overdo it.
When we are born, what are our feelings? Fear or Joy?
Reality is what creates us, shapes us, molds us into what we are and our feelings are formed later on at an older age. Are our feelings on religion, art, politics and life formed at an early age? Yes? No? Maybe? I owe more to reality than I do for my feelings, reality has taught me many things. When someone says "Congratulations" you smile because you feel joy whereas any negative comment would make you feel down (depending on the situation).
Reality shapes you for the future, but it's really up to you.
But again, that's just my opinion. I have various perspectives, opinions and theories to add, but I think I might go overboard and write too much, so I'll just leave it at that.
Sorry, but I see no boundary between the one and the other. How you feel about what you perceive is a learned response you are as much a stone in front of you as you are anything else. The concept of personal reality is present up to a point but only a small point otherwise we jump into the mysterious différance a la recondite interpretations of Derrida in the 80’s and beyond. Personal reality is ???? Psychosis? A ketamine experience. Sure there is bias and aggregate of personal experiences which plays with signifier and signified. But, it is pretty clear we can communicate so we aren’t wired that differently. Having an aphasia would be different.